Indicators Of Interest

Stylelife emails his list:

An IOI is something a woman does (maybe even subconsciously) to show you that she’s interested in you as more than just a friend…get my drift?

I won’t spell out every IOI for you but here’s a small list so you get
a general idea:

1. She makes prolonged eye contact with you.

2. She touches you in a playful. A tap on the arm, friendly punch to
the shoulder or joking hip check.

3. She fixes her hair or other aspects of her appearance in your
presence.

4. She tries to insert herself into the conversation you’re having
with other people in the set or if the conversation with you dies she
re-starts it.

5. She’s willing to do simple things you ask her to do: “Here hold
this cup.” or “Switch places with me, you stand here.”

6. She laughs at your jokes even when no one else does.

7. She doesn’t want you to leave.

The key with IOIs is to notice them and to act accordingly. What does
that mean exactly you ask? Well, if a woman is showing you she’s
attracted to you then you can start escalating things to the next level
chief. Doesn’t that sound like fun?

My rule of thumb is to notice 3-4 IOIs then to begin to work on
escalation, namely isolating the target to build comfort. So, it may
take you some time to get out of your head about saying and
performing your Openers, DHVs, and DQs for you to also be able to
keep track of IOIs but eventually this is the point to sarging often.
That’s why us pro PUAs like to run the same material over and over
again because it allows us to be able to focus on other things like
counting IOIs.

…You already have this girl interested in you so now you need to get to know
her. Ask her broad open ended questions: “What are your passions? What are you
all about? You seem different from these other women in this place, what makes
you special?” I think you get the idea. If she starts talking and doesn’t stop that’s
a great sign. Your job now is to listen intently and look into her eyes.

Easy Peasy, right?

About Luke Ford

I've written five books (see Amazon.com). My work has been covered in the New York Times, the Los Angeles Times, and on 60 Minutes. I teach Alexander Technique in Beverly Hills (Alexander90210.com).
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